I feel as if I haven’t sat down to write in sometime. The past three week have been a blur.  I have been busy traveling, attending conferences, and entertaining family guests and now I am on the road again.  On the road again, I just can’t wait to get on the road again … oh wait – I am not supposed to be singing, but writing … oops 🙂

It’s all good – I have a vacation planned starting at the end of next week with my husband to celebrate 27 years of marriage on August 19th!  Wow, it just seems like yesterday… and just look at this picture  – we were so young.

JohnandDebbie wedding pict

However, all my previously scheduled posts and vlogs have been used and I have no more in the bank…. Sigh – time to get busy writing and creating again.


Three weeks ago today I was in North Carolina attending the She Speaks Conference with my friend Patti Krank.  This was my first time to ever attend and I was super excited about what God had in store for me while there.  You see, I was finally stepping out past fear and rejection and decided to try again to meet with some publishers/editors. It’s been over 5 years since I have done that.  The last time I did, well, let’s just say it left a very bad taste in my mouth.  I felt rejected, dejected, and misunderstood.  It was horrible.

I was blessed with the opportunity to have some planned God ordered meetings (the publishers) and then some unplanned by me, but God ordained none-the-less.

I am uncertain as to what either publisher/editor will decide in regards to the material I pitched, however, they were very interested and even took my books.  I even pitched different ideas at the appointments.

I left both of those appointments feeling, encouraged, excited, accepted, and validated.  Such a contrast to the appointments 5 plus years ago.  At this point, I have done what I can do, the rest is in God’s hands.  He originally opened the door for me to meet with two very prestigious publishing houses and I thoroughly enjoyed my time with each one.  Now, it is in their hands and Gods as to what comes next.  Please join me in praying for the “what’s next.”

Your God Assignment

There were several take-a-ways for me from she speaks, but the one that hit home the most, was KNOW the season you are in.

Whitney Capps said,

“You cannot miss your season of ministry … Your Yes today unleashes God’s Yes for tomorrow.”

Whitney went on to share, don’t worry what others are doing right now, and focus on what God has for you right NOW.”  She was talking about her season of life. People are always asking her, ‘when will you publish a book, when will you do this or that?’  All things she longs and has a desire to do, however, God showed her that her assignment right now was Him and her family first.

Oh and then there was this line from Suzi Eller,

“Is my need to be known, greater than the need before me?”

Courtney DeFeo said,

“Enjoy and be a good steward of what you’ve been given.”

Lysa TerKeurst shared a powerful message on rejection from her newly released book Uninvited.  If you havne’t ordered yours yet, purchase it today!  It is amazing.  It was evident throughout She Speaks that Lysa’s heart is for women to be together – united.  Many of the messages and topics shared at She Speaks confirmed my own thoughts and message.

All of these great quotes plus many more, shaped the message of She Speaks in my heart to be this:

God knows the plans He has for me.  His plans do not have an expiration date. However, I can choose not to align with them, or try to get ahead of Him.  I need to be obedient and attentive to the thing He has placed in front of me right now.  It’s not about me, it’s ALL about what He wants to do in and through me to minister to others.  We are better when we work and partner together with the Holy Spirit and each other.

While at She Speaks, I got to make many new friendships and visit with many existing friends, one of which was Dr. Michelle Bengtson.  Her new book Hope Prevails releases Augusts 16, 2016,  and if you missed this week’s Lesson from the Lake  Vlog– where I share about the powerful message of this book, please go check it out here: Hope Prevails Vlog

After I left She Speaks, I drove into the mountains of Tennessee to Pigeon Forge.  No, I was not there to visit Dollywood, although, I may have to return so I can.  I was there to meet with 3 other very special women in my life.  One of these women, I have known personally for some time, but the other two, I met at a conference just 10 months ago. We each live in a different state from all over the country. We have different life experiences and varying church backgrounds but we have unity of spirit.

We have been gathering online and encouraging each other, but we decided we need to meet in person.  There is something to be said about meeting face to face.  Oh, don’t get me wrong, I love modern technology, however, in order for relationships to go to the next level, you have to spend time with others, laugh with them, cry with them, dream with them, oh and shop with them (of course) and that is just what we did.


My friend Holly Barrett has a weekly podcast and while we were together, she invited us all to sit at the table with her and have a conversation.  It was so much fun!  You can listen to it here at: Living a Redeemed Life – 56.  There is something to be said for gathering together.

 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10(ESV)

These three ladies, Holly Barrett, Mary Geisen, and Patti Krank inspire me and challenge me to be better.  They allow me to be real, and they accept me for who I am. We pray, support, and champion each other.  These women are gifted writers, bloggers, podcasters, mothers, photographers and the list goes on.   I count it a privilege to have them in my life.  If you haven’t been following their blogs or podcasts you need to.  You can click on their names above or the links below.  When you stop by make sure to leave a comment or two, or three…or better yet, show them some love and subscribe to their lists.

On our first night together, we were eating dinner at a restaurant that had a sign above one of the archways we walked through to get to our table.  Mary noticed it, and mentioned it while we were waiting on our food …. I can’t remember the exact quote, (Mary & Patti commented below the phrase is: “Together is a wonderful place to be” – 🙂 Thanks ladies) but the phrase that stuck with me and keeps bouncing around in my head is: “We are better together.”

  • We are better when we are united and not divided.

  • We are better when we promote each other, and do not compete with one another.

  • We are so much better when we celebrate each other instead of becoming jealous of one another.

  • We are so much better when we focus on others rather than focus on our own needs.

Friends, this is so true –We are better together!

We are better together

When my husband and I first step into the senior leadership role at our church, I found myself  in charge of many things, women’s ministry included.  I had and still do have a wonderful team of ladies. There is something powerful that happens when the Body of Christ gathers together united by the Spirit.  But there is something extra special when women gather and are united.  However, the enemy doesn’t want unity and tries to divide.  At our very first Cherished Women’s Retreat, I saw this happen, and God gave me the words to write “Cherished Women Are…”  I share it with you here today and pray it blessed you – because, WE ARE BETTER TOGETHER!

Cherished Women Are:

By Debbie Kitterman

Cherished Women Are Kingdom Warriors

Cherished Women Are women who do not gossip

Cherished Women Are women who are not jealous

Cherished Women Are loved and adored

Cherished Women Are women who call out the destiny of other women

Cherished Women Are women who build others up and champion each other, not fight against each other

Cherished Women Are Brave and Courageous

Cherished Women Are women who Bring Heaven to Earth Releasing the Kingdom of God EVERYWHERE they GO! To EVERYONE They meet!


PS – – I will have “Cherished Women Are …” available by next week as a free printable download, just for you my readers. However, it’s not on the computer I am currently traveling with.

PSS – – If you didn’t click on my friends names above here are the links where you can find them:

Holly Barrett writes, podcasts, and does the occasion Vlog at her site Reclaiming a Redeemed life at http://hollybarrett.org/

Mary Geisen writes, blogs, and shares her beautiful photography at her site Passage Through Grace – http://passagethroughgrace.com/

Patti Krank writes, blogs and shares her Freedom Friday posts, her beautiful home decor DIY projects and her 12th man recipes at  her site Old Things New – http://www.oldthingsnewblog.com/

My Post “Climb Every Mountain” was featured in the August monthly link-up at : Life on Intention Link-up Party

My Post “What’s in a Name?” was featured here:

The Luke 2:52 Project

My Post: “Will You Sit with Me?” was featured here:

My Post: “The Journey through Change” was featured here:

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