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“Ever so softly she whispered … “They love me, they love me not. They love me …. They love me not….” “
Tuesday it was my turn to write for an 8 week collaborative series on Perseverance with 3 of my friends. As I wrote the piece on rejection, I felt more needed to be said. I mean, when does a writer not have more to say? Hahaha …
I felt prompted to share tools that have helped me overcome rejection in my life, so that maybe others could overcome it too.
If you missed my post on The Sting of Rejection you can read it HERE:
Overcoming the Sting of Rejection – Part 2
Rejection is a lie and trap from the enemy to keep us all from walking fully in our kingdom destiny.
Tweet ThisIt wasn’t until my mid 20’s when I realized that I was looking through lenses colored with a spirit of rejection. It was then I began dealing with rejection and its affects in my own life.
In Tuesday’s post, I compared rejection to dandelion weeds. I said:
“The roots and seeds of encounters with rejection are very much like dandelions. Dandelions have roots that twist and turn going very deep into the ground. When you pluck them, and try to root them out, it seems over time they spring back up.”
In my life, it seemed I would deal with the rejection at hand, and then think it was gone, only to find that it would pop its ugly little head up when I least expected it. That is when I learned rejection must be dealt with at its root.
Rejection has a way of coloring the way that we see situations and people, and not in a good way.
Without even knowing it, I would often reject people or assess that they would reject me before I even said a word to them. In the spirit, walls would go up around me and my arm would fly out with a ‘talk to the hand motion’. I would say it didn’t bother me, or chalk it up to their issues, when in reality, the issues where mine.
Once I received healing for some of my childhood rejection issues, my lenses got a little clearer.
When our lenses are clearer, we can see how rejection has affected other relationships in our life.
I have thought about the things that helped me overcome rejection in my own life when it wants to spring back up and take root again. This by no means is an exhaustive list nor am I saying if you do these things then you will be done.
What I am saying is that each time I had an issue of rejection or a circumstance come about that had roots in rejection, these are some key things I did that helped me to overcome. I pray that as you read them, that you too will be able to find help and relief in implementing one or more of these keys. Below are just a few of the keys that helped me to overcome the sting of rejection.
Keys to Overcome Rejection:
Get help and healing to overcome the hurt.
Don’t isolate yourself and feel you must go it alone. Instead, find trusted people to pray with you, and who are willing to come alongside you. Then, seek out healing and prayer ministries that can help you identify the root issues and receive healing in the areas God leads you to.
Understand Your Identity in Christ
When rejection comes, and oh it will, we need to know who we are and whose we are. We need to understand that we were created in the image of God (Genesis 1:27) and that He chose us. We have been given a spiritual inheritance and authority in Jesus Christ, just because we have chosen to be a part of His family. God is where we need to look for our validation and value. Remember, He is the only one who will not let us down.
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light (1 Peter 2:9).
Stand on the truth of Scripture
For us to know our identity, we must be in the Word of God. His Scripture is full of wonderful promises of who we are in Christ. When rejection comes, and it will, we need to be so secure in our identity that we don’t allow any seeds (lies, rejection, unbelief, etc.) the opportunity to take root. Take ever thought captive, especially if it’s not a thought God has said about you in His word. For me, when I need to remember a promise/truth of God, I will write that Scripture out. I place Scripture all around me – on 3×5 cards, on my mirror, in my car, on the fridge, next to my computer screen, and well just any place I may see it. I also say those truths out loud and proclaim them over my life so I can hear them.
Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes (Ephesians 1:4NLT)
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:10)
Learn to love Yourself
Not in a prideful way, but in an acceptance way. We are so much harder on ourselves than others are, and we often don’t love ourselves. If we can’t love ourselves, they we will never be able to understand that God loves us nor will we ever be able to fully accept the love of others. Which are the two greatest commandants.
“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself'” (Luke 10:27 NIV).
Trust God
I know, when you have been rejected the last thing you want to do is trust anyone. I promise, and I said it before, He will never leave you or forsake you. Not only is God the only one who won’t reject you. He completely understands rejection.
Trust God, He’s bigger than your circumstances and He’s bigger than the way you see yourself.
It’s ok, you can grab the flower and pluck all the petals you want, but the outcome and cry of God’s heart to yours, will always be….
“Oh My Child, I love you! I really do. I am for you and not against you. I am your strong tower, I am your shelter, I am your safe place, your refuge, and your ever-present help in time of need. Trust Me my precious child, trust me.
Then our hearts will sing in response to Him: He Loves me …. Oh, How He Loves me!
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Blessings friend.
You are more than welcome to load me down with posts my friend! I appreciate you linking up and also for the grace not to have to comment on all of them 🙂 Blessings
“We need to be in His Word so we can stand on His Promises!”
I love that, and we know it in our bones, but, other things always press us for pre-eminence of place.
Thanks for this gritty and gracious offering, Debbie.
Michele – you are most welcome- it isn’t an easy topic to tackle that is for sure, and as I am sure you know when you write about something you often have opportunity to walk out putting some of it into practice ..ugh 🙁 But GOD – His word and His love keeps me moving forward. I am so glad you choose to link up with me here.
I happen to love dandelions thus to me, rejection is cancer. And it’s so much harder to get over it. But I trust – He loves me!
Jas – You are right – rejection is a cancer and it is so very hard to move past and get over it sometimes. I thank you for leaving me a comment today. 🙂
What an incredible subject to tackle. I know even though we get older, rejection is still not easy. But looking at it through your lens gives me a whole different perspective!
Jodie
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Jodie – yes, it was a hard subject to take on, but with all the rejection stuff I’ve been going through lately, I knew it was what I was supposed to write about for our perseverance series…. I have plenty of material to write on it for years actually… lol – ok not really funny, but sometimes you just gotta laugh at the hard stuff. I am so glad I was able to give you a peek through my lens. 🙂
I had one of my recurring nightmares last night dealing with a rejection in my past that I thought I’d healed from. But rejection can have deep roots, so your post reaches me, Debbie. “Rejection must be dealt with at its root.” I agree!
Oh Lisa, I am so sorry to hear you had a nightmare dealing with rejection – – ouch, ugh, and heavy sigh … if I was standing right in front of you – I would look you in the eye, take a deep breathe and have you take one too and Say – God’s got this, which means You’ve got this – big deep breathes and let the Holy Spirit come in breathe on the rejection area and show you the root. Thanks for sharing this with me today – you are in my prayers – I know exactly what you are going through. BIG HUGS to you – I am here, for you but more importantly so is GOD!
Debbie- thank you for sharing this part of your story! I’m so glad you have shared your journey and what God has taught you!
Thanks Julie 🙂 In some part, I think it helps me and others in the journey to know we are not alone as we share our stories. Blessings
I have struggled with rejection my whole life, and only this past year have I really felt I truly am letting God heal the deep issues. I will always be work in progress. I appreciate you sharing your story. More people need to know it is possible to break free and be healed. Love you, Debbie!
Meghan – I agree more people need to know they can break free and receive healing from rejection! If in some way my story and journey can help others than I am willing to write about it. I am so glad you are feeling like you have had breakthrough in this area – that is awesome!!! Love you too!
I hope you have a fabulous rest of the week!
Thanks Lisa – you too 🙂
I love the keys to overcome rejection. Thank you for hosting the link-up!
You are most welcome Valerie and thank you !
What a wonderful piece on rejection. We all feel it from time to time. Great and useful keys to overcoming rejection.
Thanks Maree – Yes, we do all feel it at some point, I just wish we never had to experience it… ever. Thanks for stopping in today.
We definitely need to learn to find our identity in Christ, don’t we?!
Yes Donna, we most certainly do!
Very nice. Something that I needed to hear. Thanks for posting it.
Thanks for hosting and I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day.
Thank you Patrick – I did have a nice Mother’s day and I am so glad that this post was something you needed to hear. 🙂 Thanks for linking up as well.