We don’t fight flesh and blood, but that’s where the enemy takes it. The enemy knows the perfect time to attack relationship. — Keith Ferrante
We know this, right?! Scripture tells us this this truth: Our battle isn’t against people.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12)
BUT …let’s have some real talk. OK? ok… sometimes it feels like we are battling people. I mean, it’s people that hurt us. They make assumption, throw accusations in our direction, get offended, are unkind or are just plain hurtful with their words or actions.
We don't battle against people, we battle unseen forces of darkness. Click To Tweet
Relationships are hard under normal circumstances but bring in brokenness and unhealthy relational tendencies and it gets messy. The enemy knows this. He knows when it’s the perfect opportunity to attack. Sometimes subtly, sometimes direct. No matter how it comes, when you are in the midst of it, it is hard to remember, it’s not the person, it’s the enemy at work behind the scene.
Have you ever noticed that these relationship attacks come right as you are ready to step out into something new, or do something important for the Kingdom? Or is that just me?
This #truthbomb from Keith Ferrante is a great reminder, as to why and when the relationship attacks come.
Keith was reminding a group of leaders, that attacks are going to come, but to remember it’s not the person. No matter how much we feel like it is. He went on to share a story about a time when he was pastoring and about ready to lead an important ministry time, when a person very close to him dropped a bomb. Well, not just a bomb, the person verbally attacked him, his ministry, and listed everything they didn’t like about the church and the way he ran things. This “friend” went on to say, their family was leaving the church and walked out. Keith felt like he had spears thrust into him and his heart. The friend walked away and he was left bleeding on the floor.
As I listened to this story, I knew exactly how he felt. It was all to familiar to me and has happened more than once. It is not something, I would wish upon anyone. It’s rough, plain and simple yet, we have to remember, we don’t fight flesh and blood. The enemy is on attack and he’s coming at us via relationships.
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. (1 Peter 5:8 NIV)
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy… (John 10:10a NIV)
So, how do we deal with assault on our relationships ?
I think we would all agree, we want to thrive in relationship and not just merely survive.
Let's purpose to #thrive in #relationship and not just merely survive Click To Tweet
No matter how much pain and hurt we have experienced, we need to take steps to heal and move forward.
Below are 4 necessities to implement so you can survive relationship attacks.
Forgiveness is a choice. When we forgive, it frees us to walk in freedom and make good choices moving forward.
Forgiveness also releases God to move on your behalf.
We must remember that offense and discord is the bait of satan. As John Bevvere would say, don’t take the bait. Choose to become unoffendable no matter what.
We remember that communication and healthy confrontation is ok. As Danny Silk would say, we choose to keep our love on. We choose relationship over disconnect.
We need to actively pursue to heal the broken areas in our life. We all have then, and when they come up, choose to take care of them right away and not sweep them under the rug. As a leader, I also tell people, you can’t take others where you are not willing to go. We need to be willing to pursue healing in our life so that we can be the best version of who God created us to be.
We need to get healthy. I am sure you have heard the saying, “hurting people hurt people.” We don’t want that statement to be said of us. We need to commit to deal with our own brokenness and unhealthy relationship tendencies and choose connection and community.
We move past relationship issues through healing. Click To Tweet
I’m not saying it is easy. Trust me, I know. I have been walking through a season where it seems relationships close to me are under attack. I have been left bleeding on the floor and still have to fulfill ministry obligations and walk in obedience to God. It would be all to easy to sweep it under the rug and move on, but wisdom and experience have taught me, the only way to move past it, is to heal. I need to face the hurt and release it to God. I need to walk in forgiveness, choose the higher ground and trust God.
Which one of these 4 things seems the most difficult to you?
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