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Seasons of Change
The morning air was crisp and cold as Daisy stepped out for her morning walk. The seasons were changing and the temperatures were dropping. Soon it would be the holidays when family and friends would gather, but things also would become a blur of activity. For now, she would enjoy the fall and the changing of seasons always brings a new and fresh perspective.
As Daisy began to walk, she started to pray and thank God for His beautiful creation. With autumn being her favorite time of year, there seemed much on her lips to be grateful for this morning. The leaves, as they changed their colors, seemed so vibrant and alive. The air was cold, yet refreshing. It definitely woke you up faster than a cup of coffee.
Mornings had never been a favorite of hers, and yet, she knew getting her day started with a prayer walk around the neighborhood would be a good thing for everyone. It helped her start her day in the right direction and helped to set her heart towards God.
As Daisy walked, she prayed. She prayed for the families in the homes she passed. She prayed for those she said she would pray for. She prayed for her family and for those the Lord brought to her mind. She knew the drill, had the route all mapped out from the previous trips around the neighborhood. That is until that still small voice in the back of her mind asked a question:
What about your enemies? Are you going to pray for them?
Daisy immediately pushed that thought out of her head and tried to ignore it as she continued to pray.
Then all of the sudden, she heard the voice again:
“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…”
“What do you want from me!?!” Daisy shouted as she turned her face toward the sky and threw her arms up in the air. She began walking again, but this time, with more determination in her step. Her breathing was getting choppy and she chocked back the tears that threatened to fall.
She heard it again:
“I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.”
Inwardly Daisy screamed, “No, no, no! No, God, don’t you understand! She hurt me, said mean things about me, and discarded me without another thought. No, just no!” Tears began to slip down her face and she walked head down and faster toward home. Daisy was frantic to get home and back to the busyness of her morning so the voice would be silenced.
“… bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.”
Daisy fell to her knees; she couldn’t take it anymore. The sobs wracked her body and she gave into the whispers of God.
“But God,“ she responded between breaths, “But I have forgiven her, why do I have to pray for her? I didn’t do anything wrong and yet you want me to pray for her? I don’t want to have to think about her any more, let alone pray for her. Please God, take the hurt away, I don’t want to be reminded of the pain anymore.”
I will take the pain away, My Child, but you haven’t fully released the situation into my hands yet. You are still holding on to pain and unforgiveness.
I know she hurt you Daisy. I know she said things that were not true. I know she blamed you for many things that were not your fault. I know she hurt you. I know the pain you are in, but I need you to trust Me.
“God, I am trying to trust you, minute by minute. But I don’t understand why she would do this to me. I thought we were friends!”
Daisy, she was acting out of the hurts and wounds in her own life. Will you forgive her and release her to me? Will you pray blessings over her and for her to receive them from Me? Daisy, will you trust Me?”
“God, I do trust You, but I need Your help in forgiving her and praying for her. Will you forgive me for the pain and justice I wanted her to suffer? I know Your Word says, ‘mercy triumphs over judgment;’ It’s just harder to walk out that I thought. God, HELP ME!”
That is what I have longed to hear you say My Child!
Have you ever found yourself in a situation like Daisy’s? A situation where you have been hurt and wounded by someone? Maybe someone knowingly set out to hurt you or maybe it just happened. Maybe it wasn’t a trusted friend but a boss, a spouse, a family member, or someone else.
I have, more than once! It doesn’t matter who it was and, sadly, it probably won’t be the last time. What I have learned over time is that the saying ‘hurt people, hurt people’ is completely true, yet I get to decide how I react to it.
Of course I may be hurt, wounded, and in need to work through forgiving the other person, however, what I don’t need to do is hold on to unforgiveness. I don’t need to be offended, but instead, I need to let go and give it into God’s capable hands.
I heard Graham Cooke once say that every relationship needs to evolve and change over time if it is to stay healthy and vibrant. It is a necessary part of life.
Sometimes we have people in our life for short seasons and sometimes we have them for longer seasons. Just like the weather seasons change, bringing different things in the life cycle of nature, we too have life cycles in relationships with people.
There are some who are reading this today thinking, “All my relationships are good!” Great! I’ve been there.
There are some who have been hurt and you’ve sworn off relationships with others all together.
There are some who are afraid of being alone, so you stay in a relationship out of fear.
There are some who are in toxic relationships and everyone around you sees it except you (or you just plain ignore it). I know; I have been there too. My advice: stop being rebellious and doing it your way. I promise God has something way better in mind if you choose to trust Him.
Like Daisy, my favorite season is fall because God paints the canvas of nature in so many vibrant colors, bringing things to life. But at the same time, it is a season where things go dormant or even die. Fall, and even winter, is necessary but only in preparation for spring when new life and new growth come about.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (KJV) tells us there is a time and season for everything:
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
What is your favorite season and why?
God, help me to examine my relationships and if any of them needs to be changed, mended, pruned, or cut off, would you give me the strength and courage to do what needs to be done in a healthy Godly way? Lord, I want relationships that will be life giving for all involved.
Also, God, would you inventory my heart and see if there is any unforgiveness or hurt in regard to relationships? If there is, God, can You help me to forgive? Can You help me to pray for and bless them? Would You give me Your eyes to see them? God help me to not be offended but instead help me to trust you through the process. Thank you that Your Word says You will forgive me as I forgive others. I choose to forgive. Thank you for extending your forgiveness to me today. Amen.
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Hey Deb, always a pleasure to link up with you!
Thanks Susan – always a joy to have you here!
Congratulations to the Rev. Hubby!
And as much as I enjoy your guest posts, it’s nice to hear from you today. Blessings to you!
Thanks Michele – I will pass along your congratulations to him and also thank you for saying you missed me – I’ve missed writing weekly too 🙂 Blessings
I hope your mid-October is going great!
yes Lisa – it’s been busy but gret! How has yours been going ?
Such a powerful story and so true. We are released from our own pain when we obey God and pray for our enemies. The prayer I use most often for this is that they have Shalom-wholeness from seeking and knowing God. Doing this has truly helped heal relationships.
Thank you Debbie! Thank you for sharing your prayer with me/us today! That is a powerful prayer for Shalom/wholeness for ourselves, our friends and our enemies as well. God is all about the business of healing relationships and restoring them as well. Blessings to you
One of the biggest lessons I have been learning with a particular person in my life is the truth you state here, of actions taking place out of the hurt in the heart. I’m learning to stop trying to control and release this person to God, while I practice forgiveness and grace. It is not easily done! Thanks for your timely encouragement friend!
Oh Crystal, my sweet friend, I am so sorry you are experience this with one of your friends… you are so right, it is not easily done at all, but we keep releasing and blessings them and calling on Jesus for help. Blessings to you 🙂
Enjoyed this post, I know I can use the advice. My favorite season is spring because of the newness of life, the birds, the butterflies and flowers all sort of wake up after a long nap. I like fall because it cools the hot summer off.
I am so glad you enjoyed the post Rebecca! Isn’t it great how each season has different things that we all like in different ways. I love that 🙂
It is always a pleasure to link up with you. Thank you for all you do to bring bloggers together. I invite you to join me at #OverTheMoon, #WonderfulWednesday and #ThursdayFavoriteThings. Have a great week!
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Even though I don’t always like this, I know it to be true: “Every relationship needs to evolve and change over time if it is to stay healthy and vibrant.” Thanks for the encouragement, Debbie. And congratulations on your husband’s ordination!
Thank you Lisa- I will be sure to pass along your congrats to my husband! Also, I don’t like the that saying or thought either, but is is so true isn’t it. Thanks for being here today.
I needed that prayer today! Thanks for the encouragement!
Oh Roseann, I am so glad you were encouraged by this post today! Thank you for always being here and leaving me a note/comment 🙂
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I am so glad for the “seasons” because as much as I love each one, I know the ones that are painful, will pass. As you know, the last “season” I have been through has been extremely hurtful and hard. When it is hard to pray for those who hurt me, God gently reminds me how much he has forgiven me. That my Friend Jesus suffered and died for me, just as he did for those who hurt me. It it a humble reminder, that we always need to forgive. With grace and mercy, remembering, our Lord is the one who extends the true forgiveness, that we all need. So, who am I not to forgive… Loved this post. You are a wonderful writer, and I am so blessed to be here reading these words. T-Bird 🙂
Hey T-Bird! I love that new name/signature for your new season of life! Thank you so much for being here and reading the words I write, it means the world to me. 🙂 Yes, your last season was a tough one, but I am so glad God is showing you just how much He has extended His grace and forgiveness to you and He asks that we do the same toward others. So powerful! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the lessons you have learned through this journey in the seasons of change. I am grateful that the painful ones too shall pass. Love you my friend!